Mutual marital cheating: An understanding

Marriage is the ultimate stage of a relationship, as it is where you decide to commit forever to the one you claim to love. It is more than cake and diamond rings, it is becoming one. But a lot of people get caught up in the wedding, not looking ahead to the actual marriage. And then things like infidelity become a concern, and threaten the union.

What some couples have been doing is making arrangements to not be mutually exclusive, especially in situations like where they will be practicing a long distance union for a while.

How would you handle this? If illness or migration caused you to not be together, would you give your spouse permission to cheat?

Crystal:

If I am giving my husband permission to cheat, I really have no relationship. It is crazy and I could never have an open relationship as it is called. I was brought up to cherish and honour marriage.

Mandy:

I am too jealous to venture down that avenue. I’ve been married for over a year and I couldn’t see myself telling my husband that it is okay to have a side chick. I would go to jail if I even see something looking like I am getting ‘bun’. My husband knows the rules.

BC:

A lot of people I am sure will think that I am crazy, but after years of his cheating, I told my husband that he doesn’t have to hide and cheat. I told him to live and we now have a mutual understanding between us where he does his thing and I do mine. I refuse to get a divorce and so does he. We’re just at a bump in our marriage and until we get over this stage, it is what it is.

Cianna:

I know of couples doing this open marriage thing but if I have to go that route, I’d rather be single.

RF:

My husband and I do this as we both live in different countries. I don’t share my sex life with him and neither does he do that with me. Right now it has to be this way until his citizenship for the States is a reality.