Don’t chase love
When you feel that time is against you, you may get the urge to speed things along, especially if your mate is dragging his feet in letting you know just where you stand. Often, women do this by setting ultimatums, taking desperate measures to get noticed, and upping the chase so the men have no choice but to act.
But it’s this kind of behaviour that can send him in the opposite direction to what you want – in chasing him, you may in fact succeed in chasing him away. Sure, everyone desires to be loved and accepted and deserves to have a secure relationship, but hunting happily ever after like a predator can backfire on you.
Here are three compelling reasons why you should never chase a relationship or love.
1. You become vulnerable to the point where you have no standards
No man or woman desires someone who is not sure who they are or what they desire. If you lack standards, you have nothing to offer and that is unhealthy. A lot of people subscribe to the notion that a relationship completes them. But no! You must be a complete person so when you are actually in a relationship, you don’t seek happiness but you actually give of your joy.
2. You become demanding
When you are desperate, you start making superfluous demands like always wanting the person around you and/or their full attention at all times. This is a definite turn-off and will result in the termination of a potential relationship.
3. You open yourself to being used, abused and disrespected
When you are desperate, it can be detected easily and some people will take full advantage of that weakness and use you. Don’t allow the demands of society to push you into a state where you put unnecessary pressure on your life to be in a relationship or to be married. First appreciate you, and spend time with you before giving the privilege of yourself to another person.
