Lessons every woman learns from dating the wrong guy
HEARTBREAK is painful, but it is through this experience that we learn valuable lessons. Some experts believe that a person won’t know how to love correctly if they have never lost love — and won’t be able to appreciate what they have if they haven’t been wounded and scarred.
Many women will date a few bad guys before they find their prince, and it is by playing the field that they will learn how to love, lose in love, and pick their heart up after it has been shattered into a thousand pieces.
Counsellor Violet Brown says after dating Mr Wrong, “Women should analyse the relationship and think hard about the warning signs they missed.
“There are so many things that women can learn from a bad relationship. You learn the importance of independence, to never judge a book by the cover, to be patient and not to rush to get serious,” she said. “These lessons can help significantly when you move on to other relationships.”
It’s advice echoed by the women below, who shared with All Woman the lessons they learned from dating the wrong guy.
Marcia F, 43:
My experience taught me to trust my natural instincts. Before the relationship got serious I had doubts about it because of certain habits the guy had. But I just ignored them and continued the relationship. If I had followed my mind, I wouldn’t be suffering from heartbreak right now.
Sharon T, 40:
I learnt to pay attention to what a guy calls the other women in his life. My ex called a past lover ‘dutty gyal’ and ‘di whore’ all the time when we were together, and I thought it was because she had cheated on him. Now that we are over he is calling me these names although I never cheated.
Alicia B, 36:
The number one lesson is to observe how he treats the women in his family. My first serious boyfriend was a charmer. Every now and then he would give gifts and money and I liked that. However, he didn’t do the same for his mother and sisters, and his excuse was that they were working and didn’t need anything. I believed it with my naïve self instead of seeing the red flags. Further on in the relationship the money got less, then stopped. Then the gifts got less, then stopped. That man was the meanest man I’ve ever known in my life.
Olivia F, 29:
You cannot change a man. I have proven this twice. People are who they are, and if they don’t want to change there is no way that you can change them.
Janice G, 37:
I learned the hard way to never rush into a relationship. It is very important to take the time to know the man.
