Tricked into siring a baby — PART 2
WHETHER it is to bind a partner to them indefinitely with a baby, to put themselves at the forefront when competing for a man’s affection, or out of a desperate desire for attention, women will mislead their sexual partners into believing that they are using contraceptives. And while some men never find out the truth, others are left with children — tangible evidence of their entrapment.
All Woman readers who have been the main players in this deception reveal examples of their duplicity below.
Chelsea C, 35:
I lied to my child’s father that I was protected, because I thought having a child would keep us together. But as soon as he heard about the baby, that was it. He walked out of our lives.
Tanice R, 36
I did that to my ex because his family had a little change. But his family thought I wasn’t a fit mother and took my son away from me. At the time I didn’t see it as a big deal, but now that I am more mature, I really regret it.
Janice T, 40:
A friend of mine lied about being on contraceptives and her boyfriend beat her when he found out that she wasn’t on the pill.
Hanna M, 27:
Stupid me! At 20 I thought it would be good to have a baby. But the relationship was fairly new and I didn’t know the guy that well. Now my son has all his dirty ways and I can’t do a thing about it.
Sandra F, 42:
I tricked my now husband and it was the best decision of my life. He proposed and we are a happily married couple today. I couldn’t ask for a better husband.
Candice J, 26:
I was told that my auntie did this with my cousin’s father. She was so distraught when he told her that he was married and would have nothing to do with her and the baby. He moved away and she has never seen him since. That was about 30 years ago.
Annice, 31:
I was about 25 and somehow felt like I was ready to become a mother. I lied, we had unprotected sex, and I became pregnant. All was well, but a year later our baby developed meningitis and died. Although my boyfriend was supportive, someone else got pregnant for him and he left. Emotionally it took a toll on me and I realised he was not against having children, but he never wanted commitment. I realised that if had just sat down and spoken to him about it, the outcomes could have been different with regards to how invested in him I was.
Shiann, 40:
About 15 years ago I was dating a much older man. He was divorced, well-off, and had one son. At that time I wanted to have my first child before I was 30, but I was afraid to discuss it with him. I told him I was on the injection when I really wasn’t, and I got pregnant. When I told him the news, he said that an accident had made him sterile, so the baby wasn’t his. Of course it led to a breakdown and he even offered me money and told me he knew someone who could get rid of it. I said no, and went through with the pregnancy. When the baby was born my parents got involved, and said if I was certain the baby was his they would pay to get a paternity test done. At that time it was very expensive, and their words were, “Don’t put us to shame. If you know it’s not his, just walk away.” I knew it was his child, and after my father spoke to him he agreed to do the test. The results came back positive, and we managed to work out an arrangement for taking care of our daughter. However, after that fiasco, I found out that apart from his son and my daughter, he had two other children who he had disowned using the same lie that he was infertile.
