What if your church said no to your relationship?
Karl Marx famously called religion the opiate of the masses, and for some people, this drug extends to all areas of their personal and professional lives, becoming chief decision maker in every aspect of existence, including their relationships.
As such, religious doctrine may dictate who they date, who they marry, how many children they have, and even what happens to the rest of their lives when the marriage ends.
So you have met someone who seems good for you, the cheese to your omelette, the white to your rice, the butter to your bread. But your church says no to the relationship. What do you do?
BF:
Truth is, no church should be so involved to tell you who you can be with, so if I am attending a church and they are that deeply involved, I would find another church to attend. God didn’t call us to be imprisoned.
Kaye:
My friend left her last church because of this same thing. She saw a man in church whom she wanted to marry and the pastor told them no, so they both quit the church.
Anita:
If my church said no to my relationship I would think about it, because the church is a spiritual house so they possibly could see something I don’t and could be saving me years of misery and unhappiness. Correction is never sweet at first, but it can save your life.
Cordell:
If my pastor tells me no, it is no. These are people who are hearing from God so why would I disobey that? The wrong relationship can destroy your entire life, so if my pastor sees something and warns me, I would take it seriously.
Andreene:
I do not think a man should instruct me how to run my love life. A pastor is just a man and I am not discounting their position, but I do hear from God too, so if I want direction, I will pray on and about it. If a church is going to choose my husband, I’d rather find another that allows me to make my own choice because no one knows how I feel but me and God.
