Signs he’s a smooth womaniser

WE all loathe womanising men — they are masterful on the playing field, captivating women with their charming personalities and sweet nothings. And while these men tend to prey on vulnerable, unassuming women, sometimes even women who are seasoned to the dating game fall victim to these men. But how can you be sure that your new love interest doesn’t have an old love interest who is still in the picture, or is pursuing other candidates?

Below Relationship Counsellor Wayne Powell shares red flags that your charming new catch is just a player.

He never commits when you mention settling down

You don’t want to be in the dating game all your life, you are ready to settle down, and with things going so well between you two, you are hoping that he can commit himself. Unfortunately, each time you mention settling down he suggests that you guys take some time to get to know each other more, and even share space, but he still wants the flexibility of saying that you two aren’t exclusive in case you should catch him red-handed.

He is never eager to meet your parents or siblings

Meeting the family shows that he intends to take the relationship seriously and so once you mention meeting your family, he suddenly has something to do or is too shy to meet them. He also does not want the guilt of hurting more than one person hanging over his head when he is through playing his game and ready to move on.

He takes you out only at night

Not only does he take you out only at night, but he would rather get the meals via the drive-through or delivery than go sit in a restaurant. He doesn’t want people seeing him with you because he doesn’t want people to see you two as a couple. So no, it’s not the way you look, it’s his way of protecting himself.

He insists that he must get a house before settling down

His excuse is he doesn’t want to start a family in a rented house or that as a man it is his duty to provide a house for his wife. This he does even when he is just not in a position to procure a house, and insists that you respect his wishes. And if you offer to help with the purchase or mortgage, he will counter that he wants to be the one to give his family a home.

He secretly makes and takes calls/texts when you are asleep or absent

This one is quite common among players — they do it all the time. In fact, most players get caught by way of the phone. So he always has an excuse for being on the phone, his gadgets are heavily guarded with codes, and he seems to be always whispering even when he is at a distance. Also, when he is around you, his phone is always face down or completely off. His excuse usually is that he doesn’t want the phone to be a distraction when you are spending time together.

When you have an emergency and you call for help, it may take him a while to get to you

Sometimes his excuses are so long he might never actually come when you have an emergency; however, if and when it does come it takes him quite a while to get to you. In fact, he often tries to help you to solve the problem over the phone or get other parties involved. He might suggest you call someone else, and probably get an expert involved. The point is, you are not his priority.