Total forgiveness in 5 simple steps
Some acts are not easily forgiven, and when handling matters of the heart, it is as delicate as running on spikes with an egg on your head. Forgiveness, however, sets you free, and gives you the power and the freedom to really move forward on a clean state.
So how can someone attain a clean slate?
VENT
Vent about it – confront the issue head on. Say how you really feel – let out all those emotions.
REFLECT
Reflect on all the things you have done in the past that offended others. Did you expect them to understand your mistakes and even overlook them by forgiving you? Do unto to others as you would have them do unto you.
RECONCILIATE
Make peace with yourself on the matter. Simply decide to use humility because no one is perfect and put yourself in the person’s shoes and try to understand their stance.
CONFRONT
Confront the individual who offended you. Sometimes the person who offended you is not aware of the issue or the extent to which the issue affected you. For something to be fixed, it must be acknowledged that it is broken. So talk to the person and let them know that what they said or did offended you. Then listen to their reasons. If for whatever reason you disagree, state it respectfully.
RESOLVE
In order to prevent future recurrence, come to some formal or informal agreement.
