Simple ways to heat up a lacklustre marriage
BEING married is like tending a wood fire — you have to keep adding to it for it to keep burning. If you neglect it, it will fade away. But loving someone for years can have you fall into a comfortable and predictable routine. It can also get a bit boring because you and your spouse know everything about each other and nothing seems new. But it’s still important to occasionally stoke the fire. So, here are a few tips from couples for keeping the love fire burning after the smoke has cleared.
Spend some time apart
Living with someone for years can make you take their presence for granted. They fade into the background of the household routine, and you go to work, go to bed, and do chores around the home so naturally you barely even notice each other anymore. Spending even a few days away from each other is good for you both to realise how much you need each other. Throw in some steamy phone calls and text messages while you are apart and it will definitely light up some sparks when you reunite.
Replay the best scenes
Remember when you just met? The places you visited? The things you did together? Go ahead and watch a favourite film again, or visit the spot where you used to hang out back in the day. Reliving these memories will help you to cherish how far you have come and help to strengthen the bond between you now.
Get fancy
By now your spouse knows every piece of garment in your closet, or at least the ones you wear often. Pick out something they’re not used to for a change. Fix your hair in a different style, bring out those heels, and invite your spouse to get dressed too. You don’t have to go out. You can make a special meal in the comfort of your home; get the candles you have stored away for a power cut and the bottle of wine in the back of the cupboard. Spend an evening basking in each other’s company every now and again.
Switch it up in the bedroom
Give the nightie a break, please. Your love life might have shrunk to a few moments of comfortable and predictable pleasure whenever you both aren’t too tired, but while it’s good that you both know how to please each other, it doesn’t hurt to try something new every now and again. You might find something exciting that you both love, and if not, you will have some good laughs.
Have another honeymoon
Who says you can only have one honeymoon? Make plans to get away from the children, the careers, and the rigours of everyday life with your spouse. Whether it’s a month-long cruise, a weekend at a hotel or a road trip to the countryside, dedicating time to be with each other is the perfect way to rekindle the flame.
Start something new together
Whether it’s a business, a charity, a garden, or an exercise plan, it’s a great idea to start something new with your hubby. Sometimes even though you live together you don’t spend a lot of time together. Having a hobby that you enjoy doing together, or a project that you get to nurture and watch growing, is a great avenue to deepen your love for each other.
