Different strokes for different folks
When a couple is not building on the same foundation, it can prose extreme challenges because a relationship really means two parties building into one. But what happens when one party wants something that differs from the other? Should they call it a wrap and move on, or should they try to make it work?
Monica:
I was dating this guy who didn’t want children and that for me was the first sign to run but I didn’t because he was so attractive and I simply was hooked to him. I love children and it is a goal of mine to get married and start my family. This guy wanted none of that – he didn’t believe in marriage and as I said, he wanted no children. I got pregnant and he told me to end the pregnancy. It hurt me deep to the core and that broke that relationship into pieces. I just think that was totally evil. But I learnt my lesson.
Charmaine:
I think once a man wants something that is totally different than what you want, it is best to go your separate ways. Unless two walk together in agreement, it really makes no sense to force it. You have to be on the same page or it simply will not work.
Carmen:
I think you have to compromise in all relationships because you will never find the perfect man or woman. So once the person is willing to compromise and be supportive, even if it is different than what they want, it can work.
Chantal:
It is a waste of your time. My ex wanted to stay in Jamaica but I wanted to travel and experience several cultures and it would cause major arguments between us because I wanted what I wanted. I eventually migrated and it was when he saw my suitcases packed that he saw how passionate and serious I was about it. So we decided to call our relationship off and live our lives how we individually chose.
Melissa:
It can work if the two persons support each other. My husband is a businessman and I am a teacher. He wanted me to run his business and I refused because I love teaching so I just couldn’t give that up. He never got mad about it; he simply hired someone. I help out on the weekends when I don’t have classes. It is all about support.
