‘I am not sending any woman to school!’
WE’VE all heard tales of men who financed their women’s education, only to be left in the cold no sooner than they have completed their studies. This has, among other things, fuelled violet forms of revenge, resulted in more men second-guessing financially supporting their partners in their educational pursuits, and led to more distrustful members of the opposite sex.
All Woman asked men to share whether or not they would finance their partners’ education, even though there are no guarantees that they will stick around. Women were also asked to weigh in on the topic.
Kevin, 30, police officer:
My babymother’s mother was sending her to college and I got her pregnant. I didn’t want her to abort the baby and I was in a position to help her out so I sent her back to school. She and I broke up about a year ago and I don’t have any hard feelings about it because she is in a better position. She can do more financially for the child and my child can be proud because her mother is educated.
Shianne, 30, nurse:
Well, if my man has an issue with helping me if I want to improve myself and he is in a position to, I would take it to mean that he either doesn’t see a future with me, is afraid I will do better than him, or doesn’t trust me. As a man you are to know your woman, and the majority of the time when a woman leaves a man after he helps her through school it’s because she never wanted to be with him in the first place — she had a goal and she accomplished it and left. These men love to pick up little young girls too much — you have to learn the hard way that you are just sugar daddies.
Willis, 38, carpenter:
I am not sending any woman to school, because these young girls especially just want to use you to elevate themselves and when they improve their situation they forget about you. They are users! If she wants to save up the money I give her as a woman to take care of herself and do it, no problem, but I am not going to say this money is for your schooling.
Charlene, 46, business owner:
As a mother of two sons I pray that my sons find good, decent women to be their partners. But to be honest, I don’t want to seem cold, but I wouldn’t want to know that my sons are sending women to school unless it is their wives and even then I am still so worried because these young girls are users. Everybody wants to go to nursing school and to go and do short courses and many times they still don’t even work and other times when they get a job they get hyped and move on with other people.
Shawn 29, taxi operator:
I am not sending any woman to school, or let me take that back, the only woman I would ever send to school is my daughter because that is my responsibility.
Stewart, 36, truck driver:
I think it depends on the situation; it depends on how serious the girl and I are. If it is my wife, sure, but just not any random girl that I am not sure if I even have a future with. I won’t say that I wouldn’t give her lunch money or a “make-up” if she is short, but I wouldn’t feel good just taking my money and giving her everytime to, say, pay school fees.
Toniann, 29, dental assistant:
I honestly wouldn’t want a man sending me to school because sometimes when they do they start believing that they own you. I would rather borrow this money because I don’t want to pay a man for schooling me with my life. To the young girls who go around using women’s good boy children to finance their education, I say be careful, because I have seen the luck of many other women run out. Not every man will take being used lightly.
Harry, 47, contractor:
Of course I would help a woman to go to school. I love to see when women upgrade themselves because I like to see when a woman can hold her own and even if we’re going to break up, she’s supposed to be able to make a woman of herself after me. I don’t like to see when a woman has to come to me for every little thing and it is not that I have a problem, because I love taking care of my woman.
Sheryl, 37, teacher:
I personally do not see a problem with a man investing in his woman’s education. At the end of the day a relationship is teamwork and if she is winning he is winning as well. Just as how if the reverse were true, I would support it because I would want my partner to be in a better position to take care of our family.
