The power and the not-so-glorious
MANY of our ‘sexpectations’ are coloured by illustrations in magazines, overdramatised romance novels, and movies. Some of the raunchiest scenes not only make our list of fantasies, but are adapted into our collective imagination of “must dos”. Unfortunately, many of us will find — sometimes in hard, painful, or just really disappointing ways — that these theories are simply not as glorious as books and movies make them out to be.
All Woman asked readers to share some beliefs that they felt they were not only deceived by, but that they think are totally overrated.
Sheryl, 39, production manager:
The fact that men these days think they need to use every skill they know in a single session. I have to say that this is not only overrated, but it is also annoying. You don’t want intimacy to be a whole 10 minutes of the ‘mama and papa’ style, but 10 and 12 changes in 20 minutes is unnecessary movement and it kills the vibe.
Mark, 41, engineer:
I don’t know if I’m just different, but I’m literally not enticed by oral pleasures at all. And it’s not just me, plenty of my colleagues say once they are getting to dip their stick and play a while in the honey pot, then they are good and don’t need anything else.
Poochie, 24, college student:
I will have to say foreplay for me. Sometimes men put too much emphasis on it when it does nothing for me. I would prefer if we just get to the good stuff.
Ian, 42, logistics technician:
I don’t think that going down is half as good as is being said. I personally don’t like it and I don’t think it is because it was not done properly.
Philanie, 24, sales rep:
I think dirty talking is overrated. If it’s done, then it’s almost guaranteed that it will kill the vibes.
Keda, 27, unemployed:
Intimacy in the water, on the beach, in the pool, anything like that. Since I have known myself people have been talking about it, and when I got older and I finally got the chance to try, it was the worst thing yet. Honestly, it really is just not pleasurable.
Akeim, 34, construction worker:
The shower scene, I would never do it again! I almost broke my back the second time around. On top of that, if it was good it would be worth it, but it was very awkward and annoying and I couldn’t have been happier when we took it to the bedroom.
Shaneika, 29, event coordinator:
Getting raunchy in public bathrooms. Do not, and I repeat, do not do it. The germs, the filth, just the idea that it’s a public place that is dirty is a turn-off. I don’t know how so many people do it.
Paul, 33, chef:
To each his own, but I don’t see what the big craze about the shower is about.
Sharry, 35, teacher:
I didn’t like how his tongue felt at all down there — that’s just not my kind of party.
