Single women in no rush to bag a man
WHEN a man discovers that a woman is not in a relationship, the most natural question that follows is: “Why?”
While this bit of information might please him if he is interested in courting her, he will muster up his most believable surprised face as if an attractive woman must have a man or something might be wrong with her.
The woman, sparing herself the trouble of rehashing the details of her last failed relationship or unpleasant encounter with a man, will perhaps say, “I just haven’t met the right man”, or “I’m doing just fine on my own” to remain pleasant.
But if he wasn’t a potential suitor making conversation, and if she really felt like telling him the truth about why she is, in fact, single, this is what she would’ve said, (men take notes):
Keisha, 32, customer care representative:
I have tried different men, and they all turned out to be big disappointments. After my last relationship, which dragged on for three years, I lost all interest in getting to know somebody again and letting them know every little thing about me. It’s really a long and exhausting process and I’m already exhausted. I’ve learned to enjoy my own company, so I’m taking an indefinite time-out.
Renae, 27, student:
It’s simple — I don’t need a man and I’m in no rush to find one. As Alkaline said, “If sumn spark, sumn spark”; but I’m not rushing into anything just to get out of loneliness.
Shanna, 26, nurse:
I would tell them that I prefer being single than having to take care of a lazy, selfish man, who is probably still going to cheat no matter how well I treat him, if we are married, how good the kitty is, or how many children we have together.
Nardia, 31, legal assistant:
I’m a single mom of two and the real reason I’m single is that I cannot afford for another man to enter our lives and then leave. Maybe when they’re older I’ll consider it, but my hands and heart are full right now. Having a man is like having another child to care for, and I can’t manage that right now.
Kristie, 28, sales representative:
I’m single because as soon as a man thinks he has you, he stops doing things to keep you. I’ll date when I feel like, but I won’t commit to any of them. I like my freedom.
Tara, 35, public relations officer:
I’ve just lost interest in the game, to be honest. Not all men are the same, but in the end they are all similar. I’m tired of them. All the men I’ve met so far are dishonest — one way or another — and that will manifest itself one way or another further down the line. What’s the point?
Sherane, 36, hair stylist:
No man can’t hold me down or stop my progress anymore. I learned to struggle on my own and made a life for myself, so I won’t let any boy spoil it up now. These boys nowadays only want the benefits without the responsibility. When I meet a real man who knows how to take care of a woman from before he even knows the colour of my underwear, I will get into a relationship.
Geena, 25, entrepreneur:
Men are dogs and they keep proving it over and over again. Maybe I just attract the worst, and is just my bad luck that, but they just take what they can get and stab you in the back. My last ex slept with my worst enemy at work. I won’t allow another man to make me look so stupid in front of another woman again.
— Candiece Knight
