Marriage regrets
WHETHER they thought they got married too young, to the wrong person, or at the wrong time, regrets, even occasional, are par for the course in many marriages. Because people evolve, situations change, and no one ever said life should be lived on a linear scale.
What are some of the things you regret about marriage, if any?
Davia, 33, married six years:
I think I got the wrong person — I literally did the eeny meanie miney mo, because there were two people who had my interest. Sometimes I have what-if moments, but I know that’s just because I had options, and I know I should give my husband a chance, but I can’t help what I feel.
Rae, 43, married four years:
I got married because I thought I was getting older, I was pregnant, and I didn’t want to be a single mother, basically. We’re happy enough, but I’m not used to being someone’s other half, after being independent for so long. I think about divorce a lot, not because I’m not happy, but because I just want my life back where I could travel, spend my money how I liked, and sleep when I wanted, without having the responsibilities of a husband and kid.
Jewel, 45, married six years:
My husband is younger and he’s the best partner one could ever have. He’s a wonderful stepdad to my children, and a wonderful dad to the one we have together. What I regret is not having met him sooner, because every woman deserves this kind of love. The amount of stress I went through with men in the past, including my kids’ fathers, and then to have someone who’s devoted to me feels so good.
Abeena, 32, married two years:
I regret just how I connected with my own self and did my own thing, and how happy I was like that. Now I always have to think of someone else’s feelings and sometimes I just want to be selfish.
Marc, 40, married eight years:
My wife is a green lizard — she has one personality for the public, and at home she’s a monster. She played me big time, because I truly didn’t know who I was marrying. I regret not doing my homework, but then again, she fools so many people daily, that even if I had done research, it wouldn’t have shown her true personality.
Kash, 30, married one year:
It’s all good, but sometimes I think we rushed into marriage too young. Just sometimes though. I just have this itch to be doing things and we can’t because we have to budget with the baby. I’m OK most times, but I really don’t know if this can be my life long term, because I want to enjoy my life and have more experiences and just be young, before just being someone’s old dad who’s working a nine-to-five to pay the mortgage.
