The secrets you should always keep

THEY say there should be no secrets in the marital space, and a relationship with secrets is destined for failure. But as novelist Nicholas Sparks says in The Notebook “we’re all entitled to have our secrets”, and there are some secrets that should be kept between you and God.

When it comes to relationships, what is something that it’s best not to tell your partner about?

These people, who have been burnt after they decided to come clean, share.

Anna-Kay, 30:

Don’t say what you really feel about their bodies, what you’re least attracted to about them, what they’re really like in bed — don’t laugh at how they sound or what their faces look like, and don’t say how they compare to your exes, even if they ask. Men can NEVER handle that kind of honest disclosure. Lie if you must, and stroke their egos when you must. Because they will never forget what you said, and will never feel confident after you truly give an assessment like this.

Javene, 28:

Don’t share details of any of the experimentation you may have done in your teens or young adulthood, especially if your partner is on the conservative side. They will never look at you the same again.

Khara, 30:

Never, never say what your true body count is, especially if it’s higher than his, or higher than the average woman’s. Even if he is very forward-thinking, he doesn’t need to know about the old days when you were living your best life.

Kim, 25:

Don’t tell him what’s your type, especially if he’s not it. It will make him very insecure. I told my man that I loved soldiers three years ago, and he has not got over it, and still thinks I have the hots for every soldier I see, even though it’s nothing like that.

Angel, 34:

Don’t tell them that you dislike anyone in their immediate family, or they will use it against you later. Better yet, don’t chat anyone in their family, because trust me, you’ll be the enemy when they all start moving away from you.

Camille, 32:

It’s OK to be pro-choice, very admirable really. But don’t tell any man that you had an abortion in the past, because trust me, they will judge you for it. Don’t tell any friends or family either, because they will never understand the choices you make.