A dream about the woman he told me not to worry about
Counsellor,
I don’t want you to laugh, because I take this situation very seriously. You know how people say that the Lord puts something on their heart? I didn’t know the full meaning of this until a few nights ago, I suddenly woke up, with literally the revelation, in colour, a weight on my chest, that my husband is cheating, and the actual woman he’s involved with. It was detailed and vivid and not really like a dream, but like someone pointing out the obvious to me. This woman is a client of his, and someone I was wary about before, but he told me not to worry about her. The revelation was so clear, that I knew it was spiritual. I went back to sleep, and a couple hours later, woke up again, with another vivid revelation of him packing his bags and kissing me on the forehead, and leaving. What is your take on this? I’ve long suspected that he is up to something, as he ‘works’ very long hours, and the thrill has basically gone from our marriage.
Let’s start here: Life is all about balance. The way an infant learns to walk and move forward is a demonstration of how we get forward in life. We must learn to be balanced. It’s the only way to remain stable and make progress in this broken world. Why am I starting here? Because dreams can be accurate, but some are just “creative imaginations” happening during sleep.
The Bible does say in Job 33:14-18 (KJV), “For God speaketh once, yea twice, yet man perceiveth it not. In a dream, in a vision of the night, when deep sleep falleth upon men, in slumberings upon the bed; Then he openeth the ears of men, and sealeth their instruction, that he may withdraw man from his purpose, and hide pride from man. He keepeth back his soul from the pit, and his life from perishing by the sword.” It means God at times uses dreams to give instructions. It’s consistent with Bible stories: Abraham, Jacob, Pharoah, Nebuchadnezzar, Daniel, etc. Dreams are often very informative. But that truth must be understood in a balanced way.
Daniel, Nebuchadnezzar, etc, all sought further explanation and clarity about dreams. It is often prudent to get more information and evidence before doing anything draconian or drastic because of a dream. In your case, I suggest you become more aware of your husband’s movements, within reason. Do not go about giving him the evil eye. Just be more alert and require more accountability. You can let him know you’re feeling concerned about his loyalty. Let him know about the dream and ask if there’s any truth to it. Don’t condemn him or call down fire and brimstone. Remember, if you “love” him, “love suffers long and is kind…does not behave rudely…” etc —1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (NKJV). Your intention must be to know the truth, so you can make an informed decision about what to do. Your marriage is at risk if trust is on the rocks. You can always reach out to me for further assistance.
In beautiful relationships between mature individuals, they know how to bounce back from difficult experiences. It’s a key difference between a strong couple and a weak one — the ability to return to “centre” — the ability to “recalibrate”. I am confident that every single couple that ever existed has gone through difficult times. Few couples have been mature enough to work their way back to joy, peace and love.
You’ve had dreams, and you will have more. Some will be spot-on correct. Others will be due to the late night snacking and the
Netflix series you watched. Do like Daniel when he had a troubling dream: pray about it, be patient, be smart, and stay compassionate. I also pray that the truth will be known and that you’ll also know what best to do next.
Get on The Counsellor’s Couch with Rev Christopher Brodber, who is a counsellor and minister of religion. E-mail questions to allwoman@jamaicaobserver.com.
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