THEY say confession is good for the soul, and that in a good partnership, there are no secrets. Some people take this literally, and their partners are told every single thing, sometimes to the detriment of the relationship. Because they don’t understand that even while confession is a good thing, sometimes the person you spill your secrets to, shouldn’t be the one you also share pillow time with.

Because sometimes these share sessions can in fact be the death of a relationship, as the people below share.

What’s something you confessed to your partner that ended your relationship?

Peter, 42:

We were living together for years, and then she found the gospel. She invited me to church and I went a couple times. One Sunday, this very charismatic pastor was preaching, and I felt the spirit. Before I knew what was going on, next few weeks it was watch night service and I was in white, getting baptised. Anyway, the spirit overcame me one day at home, and urged me to come clean. I told my fiancée that apart from the two children she knew about, there was another that was born a little bit before my baptism. She wasn’t even upset, so I thought all was well. Next day I came home from work and she had locked me out, and sent me a text that when I was ready to collect my belongings, I should come by with a police officer.

Olivia, 33:

I told him that the baby I’d lost years before wasn’t his, but my ex’s. I don’t even know why I told him, because it’s not like it mattered at that point. But he said he couldn’t trust me, and it wasn’t so much about the lie, it’s the fact that I made him mourn the miscarriage. Our relationship fizzled soon after that.

Frank, 60:

This was some years back, but I told my long-term woman that her sister was looking me, was very flirtatious, and had asked me for money several times, and I didn’t like it. She took her sister’s side, and said I was a pervert. From that time I know that women really can’t handle the truth.

Alissa, 30:

We were in marriage counselling and everything was coming out, like it was therapy. Anyway, I revealed some things about my family’s past with abuse involving several male family members, and how I believed that affected my attitude towards intimacy. I felt encouraged by the counsellor to share, so I revealed much more than I’d ever told anyone else before. Well, afterwards my groom-to-be told me that he wasn’t capable of handling all that baggage, and thought it was best that we didn’t marry each other.

Beth-Ann, 36:

I told him my aunts used to tie men, and listed out all the methods they used. I thought it was funny, and because he was studying culture-related stuff, I thought he would be intrigued. He wasn’t, and said my family members were obeah people. The relationship didn’t end immediately then, but after a few years of him scorning them and mocking them, I knew he had to go.