COUNSELLOR, Three years ago I manifested the man I wanted, and even dabbled in some spiritualist stuff to ensure that he was mine, and it worked. It worked so well that now we’re engaged. The only problem is that now I’m not too sure of him again, and I think I made a mistake. Luckily we aren’t married yet, but each time I try to break things off, he has a breakdown. Do you believe in soul ties and destinies? Could I have unwittingly destined this man to myself for life, even though I have changed my mind? How can I gently ease away? We are in the same circles and our families are close, so even when it ends, I will have to see him still.

You dabbled in witchcraft with the intent to secure a romantic relationship with a particular gentleman. You have since been in a relationship with him and now you want out, but you’re finding that there’s an unusual bonding between you, and you want to know what to do. It’s unfortunate that many people do not understand what “dabbling” is about. If it is to be understood at its core, and most of all from the teachings of the Bible,which is the spiritual authority above all others, dabbling, ie witchcraft, is about creating a relationship with nefarious beings.

Understand this: You can’t solicit evil and hope for good. Criminals will do crime. People unfortunately dabble for money, opportunity, or for a relationship, as you have done. But, as you’re experiencing, it may seem to “work”, but there will always be a great price to pay later. And how can you pay for the services of nefarious spirits? If they work, they want to be paid! And their charges are usually unexpected. The end is always unpleasant.

A “soul tie” is a spiritual reality. It is a connectedness intended to be formed between a husband and wife, where the “two become one”. (See: Genesis 2:24 / Ephesians 5:31 / 1 Corinthians 6:16). However, what you are experiencing is more precisely “spiritual bondage”. And no, you don’t have to be forever bound to this man. No! But what’s most urgent for you now though is to engage the Lord. Get connected to Him!

The “only problem” is not your only problem. You are reaping from what you initially sowed. What you really should be asking is how to get out of the relationship and connection with the nefarious entities you contracted. And the police can’t help with this kind of wickedness. Learn an important lesson: Do not dabble! Whatever you think you want, learn to ask the Heavenly Father for it, in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ. And do not try to manipulate anyone!

I suggest that you surrender yourself to the love of God Almighty, knowing that His spirit is good, just, merciful, pure, and compassionate. Which is the complete opposite to what your dabbling has released.

My advice:

Pray for forgiveness: Ask the Heavenly Father for forgiveness and for deliverance from the claims of the underworld. Invite Jesus Christ into your life. Ask Him to take charge of your life. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you and this gentleman.

Get support: Seek good Christian advisors and strong prayer support. Pray for yourself, this gentleman, and for your entire family. Also, it’s apparent you need to get advice on waiting, dating and relationships. Learn to be patient, to communicate, and to trust the process. Remember, manipulation is folly!

Speak to the gentleman: Confess what you did. Good things can only come and last in the light of the truth. He needs to decide his future based on the truth. You have singled him out for a spiritual attack, now you must absolutely help him get free.

I pray that both you and the gentleman will indeed be free to experience a good, godly future.

Get on The Counsellor’s Couch with Rev Christopher Brodber, who is a counsellor and minister of religion. E-mail questions to allwoman@jamaicaobserver.com.

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