What women really want

Delve into any man’s secret list of Top Ten sexual fantasies and you’re bound to find, without exception, one that expresses a wish that his woman be more of a, um, shall we say, slut in bed.

Without exception.

Even the guys who married the chaste, virginal kind of girl they feel comfortable bringing home to their mothers.

Human sexuality, let’s face it, is a dark, mystical subject, still riddled by taboos. This is probably why, after centuries and centuries of people having sex, it still remains a function we all become excited about.

So we know about men’s fantasies.but women have fantasies in bed, too; more than 40 years of the women’s movement have earned them the right to. And not just about things they want done to them in the boudoir, either.

After all, folks, it’s the 21st century; men aren’t the only ones with legitimate sexual needs. So, yes, it turns out there are women who actually want to be completely slutty in bed, who want to revel in the role of taking the lead between the sheets-here are some things they say they fantasise about.

allwoman thinks Valentine’s night is a perfect time to try them out.

Women want to:

1 Be the one to initiate a night (or day) of carnal delights – Often, women complain that sex happens on the man’s timetable. We both have busy schedules – why should we do it only when he’s good and ready?

2 Send a text message describing the kind of panties we’re wearing, or send an almost x-rated, revealing picture, by phone, to you at work to kick-start the night’s action

3 Two words: role play. “I have this fantasy,” a friend once shared, “of dressing up like a whore – you know, the whole shebang; no panties, etc – and arranging to meet my guy in a bar or hotel lobby. We’d do the whole ‘pick-up’ thing and then leave together or check into a room, where he’d treat me like one!”

4 Have men use their tongues on them more often. Hmmm.On the sensitive spots, the tip of a tongue, say on the inner rim of an earlobe, or on the groove of the back where the neck connects with the skull, can be maddeningly stimulating.

5 Do it in varying locations. Jamaican men are often too regimented in love-making. Variety is, after all, the spice of life. A bed doesn’t always have to be the ultimate destination; love can be made in the kitchen, on the patio, in the bathroom. Creativity, creativity, creativity.

6 Hear a man making noise. So often, men feel like sex noises should be the purview of the woman, while he retains a stiff (no pun intended) upper lip. Uh-unh. Women want a man who’s strong, but also able to show vulnerability in bed. Use dirty words. We want to know that the man, too, is able to lose control. Also, there’s a little part of us that wants the neighbours to know how much of a prize we are.

7 Practically every woman has had the ‘kitchen’ fantasy at one point or another. It goes something like this: We’re cooking dinner, perhaps, or making breakfast. Whatever. We’re slaving over a hot stove. The man comes in, takes the spatula/cooking spoon from our hands.and, how about this – just finishes preparing the meal. That’s guaranteed to earn serious brownie points. Guys, go immediately to the bedroom, afterwards, to pick up your gift!

8 Everybody knows Jamaican men are overwhelmingly squeamish about giving oral, although most of them have no problem receiving it. Just take a chance on life, men. If you say you want to pleasure us, do that. Even just once in your life, go out on a limb.

9 Put off doing the deed. We want men to engage in a make-out session with us, say, just before heading out to the movies, or even to work. Then, when we’re both smoking hot, leave. All day we’ll have something to anticipate, and when we finally get together – well, can you say “flying sparks”?

10 It may sound corny but, after love-making, stay with us. You don’t have to sprint to the shower right away. Lie down beside us and let us listen to your heartbeat return to normal. Let us feel that the experience was real, as meaningful to you as it was to us, whatever the nature of it was. This will definitely guarantee we’ll serve up some more. Soon.