When he needs a push-start
Sometimes things don’t go as planned, and the expected fireworks end in a fizzle in the bedroom. This can be devastating for the man who thrives on ego boosting, but more important is the reaction of his woman.
What do you say when your man has problems in the bedroom? When there are no fireworks, what then?
Sonia, 37:
Whether or not a man wants to admit it, he has an expiration date. Sometimes as women we will try and fake it, but I think the men can tell when we are being sincere. Me, I give it to them plain and straight, no long talking. If I’m not enjoying it I will let him know.
Lisa, 39:
Some men have big chat and nothing else. I am not going to comfort anyone with a lie. If he can’t handle the work I will just let him know. I don’t have time to play counsellor.
Jessica, 32:
You give him a certain look and he just knows what it means. Many times, all of a sudden he’ll be back in full gear!
Evelyn, 40:
I have to encourage him. If someone is going to help him out in that department it has to be me. I will say things like, ‘You can do it!’ For men sex is an ego thing and so you have to know how to stroke a man’s ego sometimes.
Patricia, 34:
I will brush it off and take one for the team. Sometimes I will say something like, ‘It’s me and not you’ just to not make him feel insecure.
Kristina, 36:
Boy, I find that there is nothing that you can really say. Sometimes you just keep quiet and sweep that one under the rug. If you do end up saying something you could make the situation worse.
Sophia, 37:
I just continue as if nothing is wrong. I just continue to do my thing like a car on the road that needs a push start, you just keep going until the car starts again.
Tiffany, 32:
My spouse and I have a great relationship where there is open communication. I would want him tell me if something was wrong on my side of the fence. And so I tell him afterwards and not during the actual act.
