I wish my partner knew…
Many men believe they’re experts when it comes to love and sex, and some are so set in their ways that you can’t tell them otherwise.
Many women also have strict beliefs and expectations about love and relationships, and changing their views is like pulling teeth.
But what may have worked for Paula or Paul may not work for Angelique or Damian, and it’s this that the women and men below say they wish they could tell their partners.
Lavern, 38:
Many men don’t know the difference between sex and intimacy; for them they are one and the same. I wish that my partner would put more effort into making sex an experience, rather than something to get over and done with.
Yvonne, 40:
My partner makes me feel like sex is purely a male dominated activity. And so he loves to hear me moan and groan, so that he knows that he is doing his job well. But what about me? I want to know if I am doing well also. I mean he doesn’t have to be brutally honest to go as far as comparing me to his last woman, but he can let me know how I am doing so I can know what my strong points are and where I can improve.
Raphael, 34:
I find that sometimes women don’t understand that for us sex is just sex. Yes we love you to death but we also love sex as well. I know that that is not what she wants to hear but it’s the truth. And so sometimes I don’t like it when my woman tries to hold back sex from me in an effort to teach me a lesson. When it comes to pleasing me, all I ask for is just some good playful, fun sex. That’s all!
Tina, 37:
Some men fail to realise that there are other parts to a woman than her vagina. Before going all the way, it would be nice if he could stimulate the other parts of my body. Play with my ears or kiss me on my nose, just to create the mood. I wish my partner knew the importance of foreplay. To me it’s just as good as the sex itself, if not better.
Richard, 35:
I fantasise a lot about different things. It would be nice if my partner would be a little bit more spontaneous in the bedroom and even create an open line of communication where I can share my sexual fantasies with her and she can do the same. I am not asking for a sex dungeon like in Fifty Shades of Grey, but I would like to be wowed every once in a while. If we are in this for the long haul, we might as well keep things interesting.
Wayne, 35:
I like when a woman is confident in the bedroom. When I met my current sexual partner I was the one who showed her the ropes. But now it has been a while and so I wish that she could be a little more confident sexually. I don’t always want to be the one to have to initiate things every single time. I want her to learn some new skills and even teach me a thing or two. It’s okay to be naughty, I’m your partner in crime!
