10 things we hate about you

WHETHER it is your mate’s sleep pattern or how they fold the sheets; your man picking his nose or your woman spitting every chance she gets, pet peeves are par for the course in relationships. Sometimes your spouse will tell you what annoys them about you, other times they won’t. This week, professionals and romance experts Okeno Johnson, John Pennington, Peter Forrest, Rohan Williams, Kemar Green, Francis Dennis, Adrian Robinson, Tyrone Bennett, Thomas Harriot, Nathaniel Jones, Anthony Brown and Sam Cooke dish the dirt on the things men really dislike; while Rachel Roper, Renee Burrows, Sadie Samuels, Tanya Palmer, Nicole Anderson, Candace Brown, Abigail Smith, Annette Fisher, Kerry-Ann Johnson, Chrissann Davis, Simone Plummer, Rochelle Roberts, Diana Wilson, Patrice Robinson, Shian Lawrence, Ann-Marie Hyatt and Chantelle Bernard tell us what women absolutely hate about men.

MEN

1. Dishonesty

According to Johnson, Pennington and Cooke, nothing is more worrisome than a dishonest woman, as the trust in the relationship will be non-existent.

2. Falseness

In Forrest’s estimation, if a woman wears too much make-up, false hair, eyelashes, acrylic nails and evidently lives above her means or refuses to be herself around him, then there’s nothing to like. “It shows a sense of insecurity,” he said.

3. Loudness

Pennington and Johnson absolutely hate this about their women. They clarified that though they believe women should be outspoken and confident, it doesn’t necessarily mean they should be raucous.

4. Too technical

Cooke said he hates when a woman starts a storm about simple issues like where he squeezes the toothpaste from, leaving the toilet seat up, or how he ties the curtains to let sunlight into the room.

5. Ungratefulness

Lack of appreciation for anything, no matter how big or small, irks Williams, Green and Dennis.

6. Cruelty

“I had a girlfriend who was cruel in many forms — to animals, her cousins, her younger siblings and eventually she became cruel to me. If I upset her she would let my clothing get soaked by the rain if I wasn’t home to pick them up, or she’d give my dinner to the cat,” Robinson said. Bennett also had a similar experience with cruelty from women. “Don’t spitefully withhold sex just because you can,” he said. “That’s cruelty and if you’re replaced we get blamed”.

7. Stalking

Stalking men, calling them 30 times until they answer, just to say hello, and changing their voicemail to say you’re their partner, are all turn-offs for men. Dennis, Williams and Green all agree that whenever women are too obsessed with them or with material things, they find it distasteful.

8. Aggression

Harriot said women are nurturers by nature so he hates when women are always angry. Jones said to top it off, if she is also impatient and annoying, he becomes irritated.

9. Laziness

Brown said he hates that his girlfriend will sleep until late afternoon, get up, watch her favourite shows, eat junk food, shower and go back to bed. “Nothing is wrong with relaxing and letting your hair down, but doing it too often is a turn-off.”

10. Careless grooming

Harriot said women should look like women and not like men, so a woman refusing to shave her legs upsets him. He added that bad teeth and refusal to properly groom their hair are things he hates about some women.

WOMEN

1. Your sagging pants

Roper said when her boyfriend wears his pants below his waist it irritates her to no end. “I don’t know what about it is fashionable but when he does it all I do it stare with and angry face and he pulls it up,” she said. Samuels also said seeing her partner do this makes her want to hit him.

2. Using money to get her attention

“Thinking I’m interested in material things is my biggest issue,” said Palmer. “There has to be something more to you for me to be interested. Material things are replaceable.”

3. You kiss and tell

Mama’s boy or not, Anderson said what happens in the relationship should stay in the relationship. Burrows agreed, and said what she hates most about her partner is his reluctance to discuss things with her, but willingness to run to ‘mommy’ and pour his heart out. “What is that? Who does that? I’m your partner for a reason, tell me your concerns, not mommy,” she said.

4. You’re a coward

As they say, men are natural hunters and Brown, Smith and Bernard all have issues with men who are cowards. “What will happen when you need him to defend you. Or when both of you are equally fearful of a flying cockroach?” Smith asked.

5. Your temperament

Fisher said her boyfriend’s short fuse is a cause for concern. “I hate that he gets upset so easily for simple things. Sometimes it scares me,” she said.

6. Your flirty ways

According to Fisher, Plummer, Roberts and Hyatt, seeing their men flirt with women in their presence or hearing of it from a friend can be heart-wrenching. “It’s disrespectful,” Plummer said.

7. You hang with your boys more than her

Feeling like second best is not a good thing. Johnson and Davis said when their boyfriends pay more attention to their male friends than to them, it makes them envious.

8. You leave the toilet seat up

Wilson said she hates this the most about her partner as when she has to go, it isn’t fun stopping to ensure she does not fall into the toilet bowl.

9. You’re not domesticated

Robinson said men who can’t seem to dust furniture or wash a plate make her angry. “It’s not that it will affect my love for him, but sometimes the extra hand goes a far way. I hate that he can’t seem to survive without me around,” she said.

10. You don’t read between the lines

Lawrence said a man who can’t take a hint when she’s dropping clues makes her annoyed. “I can’t seem to hate anything more than trying to suggest something, leaving a clue here or there, and he seems totally oblivious to it,” she said.