6 relationship tests that strong couples survive
Every relationship that is now on solid footing had to endure a few tests before they got to where they are today. Romance author Richie Drenz shares six tests which strong couples have survived.
1. The unfaithful test
No one sets out in a committed romantic relationship and expects that infidelity would someday come and rock the boat. But sometimes it does. When this happens, some people may opt to call it quits altogether, but there are others who are willing to work together to try and unite again. Sometimes it’s not so easy to call it quits after a lifetime together and splitting up would actually be harder than staying together. Though cheating may come as a shock. it can also be an opportunity to become more intimate. Sometimes cheating is a symptom of something bigger and so the couple must be willing to face this challenge together and get a fresh start on their relationship.
2. The who makes more money test
In recent times, the power dynamic in the modern relationship has changed especially since many women are at the top of their game. What if the numbers don’t add up? What if she is making considerably more money than him? Or what if he is the only one making the money and she has to constantly depend on him for money? Though this could be a certified relationship wrecker for strong couples who know what they are about, it doesn’t have to be. For strong power couples, when they close the door to their bedroom they leave behind the status, the money, the fame and the popularity. They focus on being a cohesive unit as opposed to being disjointed.
3. The put pride aside test
Simply say “I’m sorry” when you’re supposed to even when you don’t want to. Both of you are on the same level and are working towards the same goal and therefore you should be on the same page at all times. Learn how to apologise, especially with a sincere heart. This could mean the difference between staying together and parting.
4. The be the bigger person test
A relationship is a partnership and not a dictatorship. For the sake of the relationship, sometimes it will require you to be the bigger person and just compromise. Though to you this may not seem fair, the truth is all is fair in love and war. How else are you going to have your happily ever after if you are not willing to choose your battles and know when to back down? You have to exercise your emotional intelligence and know when your ego is getting in the way.
5. The dry spell of the relationship
The truth is that not every waking moment will be a fabulous one. You’re not always going to want to smile or go out or entertain friends. There will undoubtedly be a dry spell in your relationship where you’re both just getting on with life. But the best part about this test is that after every dry spell there is sweet spot where the both of you are so much in love and the world is at peace.
6. The down and out test
Will you be there for me when I am down and out? Sure, everything is great when you have money and health but what about when life takes a turn for the worst? That is why they have that clause in the marriage vows, ‘In sickness and in health’. Are you committed enough to take that vow seriously, ring or no ring?
