Compromising for love
Everyone has an idea of what they want in a partner and many hold steadfast to their notion of what they want. But the truth is that we won’t find all we want in one person, as no one was or will ever be custom made to fit our expectations.
What are you willing to compromise on your list of must-haves in a partner?
Anne, 28:
I’m sorry but I think that the qualities that I’m looking for are very simple so I don’t see the need to compromise.
Claire, 23:
I would be open to making a compromise, just one, because if I keep crossing things of my list then I’m going to be left with a man I don’t want. So the thing that I’m willing to take off my list is him being able to clean. But he should be able to wash and cook for himself. I don’t want a grown man to be waiting on me to do simple things for him.
David, 29:
I’m not perfect so I know that for a woman to be with me she might have to take a few things off her long list of must-haves. Likewise, I know she is not perfect and I will have to accept certain things about her. I would compromise on her being outgoing. I am a fun person who loves going out so if I meet a woman who is willing to go out a few times and not all the time, then I would work with that.
Bruce, 38:
There will always have to be some form of compromise, big or small. I would give up on her being romantic. Not everyone knows how to be romantic and lovey dovey. But with that said, I do expect her to show her love for me in some way or the other.
Karoll, 28:
I think I could give up on him being a lover of animals. I don’t know what else to give up, because I’m not going to compromise on him having a job and having ambition.
Tricia, 34:
This is somewhat hard when you really think about it as everything on my list is of importance to me. But I think I could give up on him being handy around the house. Hopefully he will possess all the other attributes on my list that will allow him to be able to pay someone to do it.
Donovan, 37:
I would say that my compromise for her would be her being domesticated. My mother grew me well so I am able to cook, and cook a good meal at that. She doesn’t have to be a pro at cooking or keeping house but I do expect her to throw the laundry in the machine from time to time.
Tee, 27:
I have compromised more than once and to be honest I’m not doing it anymore. I would rather stick to my list than lose my sanity.
Willie, 39:
I can work with a woman who isn’t keen on having children because I’m not looking to have any more children. If I met a woman who wanted children then I would have a child with her but not having any more isn’t a deal breaker for me.
Pauline, 30:
My list of what I want in a man is based on the experiences I have had in knowing what I don’t want in man. To be honest, I’m tired of having to meet a man at a bus stop or at our destination. For once I’d like a man to come and pick me up and take me out. But since we are talking about compromising, him not driving or owning a car is something I can live with, for now.
