Who’s to blame when cheating happens?
Discovering that your partner has been unfaithful is a devastating blow to any relationship. Even as you struggle to accept the reality of the betrayal, it is natural that you may begin to contemplate the reason behind your partner’s decision to cheat. Was it something you did or didn’t do? Or was he just born that way? Who’s to be blamed when cheating occurs?
All Woman asked readers give their opinion and here’s what they said:
Janet:
Sometimes both people in the relationship contributed to the affair. In moving forward, though, I say both partners should know if it’s something that they can grow past.
Daviann:
Probably I shouldn’t use my relationship to judge, but she knew that he was my man and she kept sending him nudes and all sorts of things. Now, in all honesty, if I was a man I would cheat too. Even though I have not said it to his face, it is just how I feel. I am working it out with my man and I would do it again because I won’t give them the satisfaction that they want. We have been through too much for that.
Telly:
Sometimes I wonder if I loved her properly, if I spent enough time with her, or if I worked too much. Honestly, I should have seen something. The happiness was leaving her eyes but I didn’t do much to change that because I was always too busy. I don’t know if I blame myself or her, I just wished she talked to me instead of someone else, which is the cause of this mess. We are working on communicating and expressing ourselves better, because that way we can avoid something like this happening in future.
Cally:
I cheated. I know I didn’t love my boyfriend the way that he deserved to be loved. There is no way I could continue to take advantage of how good of a man he was. Of course I blame myself for ruining a potentially great relationship with a beautiful man and a family I never had, but you don’t hurt the people that you love. I left him, even though he wanted us to work things through. It was not because I didn’t love him, but because I know that I have it in me to cheat again.
Caren:
If he cheats there is only one person to blame. I don’t care how it happened, once you are unfaithful you are to blame. If he cheats I don’t know if I could ever get past it.
