Why no one is asking you out
IT’S every girl’s dream to be chased, showered with roses and swept off her feet. But if you’re sitting at home every Saturday night wondering why you’re watching Netflix and chilling solo even though you have invested in your looks, have mad cooking skills, and are educated, there could be a big problem.
Below, sex therapist Dr Sidney McGill shares five reasons why no one is asking you out.
1. You’re intimidating
You’re confident, assertive, very educated and more likely making more money than him. You’re all that he hopes for in a woman, but he has placed you on a pedestal and even though he is very interested in getting to know you, there are other things interfering. It may be that you don’t look friendly enough, your language is usually formal, and you don’t seem to be open to conversation. So perhaps if you change this, he will find you more approachable.
2. You’re too easy
Many women who are searching for love give off a desperate vibe that men can smell a mile off. Yes, you have done the career thing and you’re now ready for a family before your clock stops ticking, but you don’t have to let it show.
3. His last few relationships ended badly
Not only did his last relationship end badly, leaving him broken, unwilling to commit and at least temporarily afraid to love, but so did at least two or three before that one. If he was treated unfairly by these women or he believes all women are one and the same, he may not want to readily enter another relationship because he fears that it could end badly as well. He needs time to heal and recover, that’s all.
4. Birds of a feather flock together
It may not be you, it may actually be the people you associate yourself with that he doesn’t trust. He knows their history, and while he doesn’t know you, he has already concluded that people with similar histories and habits tend to be close friends.
5. The impact of external forces
If his friends do not like you or think that you are a good match for him, beware. Yes, he may like you, but he is more concerned about what his family and friends will think about a potential union.
— PENDA HONEYGHAN
