Love lessons I learned from my parents
YOU don’t usually get to choose who you love, but you certainly get to choose how you love, if and when you experience the emotion.
Many times our failure or success could be a result of traits or lessons we took from our parents’ marriages or romances that lasted a lifetime or quickly faded.
In every circumstance there is an opportunity to learn something, and below some readers share with
All Woman the love lessons they learnt from their parents.
Marie:
If it is marriage, ensure you have your personal savings as anything can happen. Also, don’t completely immerse your life in your partner.
Annie:
I’ve never seen my parents argue. My mother used to call my father ‘daddy’ and he called her ‘mommy’. They were always affectionate and it never seemed like there were any difficulties.
Kerone:
From watching, I learnt to always make the woman win. Never go toe to toe in an argument even if you’re correct. It will not solve anything.
Joshua:
One thing the relationship between my parents taught me was to admit my mistakes in a respectful way. It makes no sense being puffed up with pride that you can’t say, “Hey, I was wrong, I’m sorry”.
Kelly-Ann:
My parents certainly taught me that criticism isn’t a bad thing. However, they really showed me that no matter how bad the situation is, to ensure that when you’re making a point or criticising, even when it’s a mess, make the criticism a positive or constructive one. This eliminates arguments and shows your partner that though you aren’t pleased, you’re not belittling them and you are offering them ways to make it right.
Marcus:
My mom was a single mother and she certainly taught me to care about the right things and forget trivial matters. Her thing was, ‘Find a wife who you will love until you die. Build a stable home and be the best father you can be to your children. When you have issues, ask yourself if this is worth an argument, is it that serious, has she asked for forgiveness, and move on.’
Lester:
There are many lessons I learnt when my parents were married and after the divorce. While they were married I learnt that it is important to have an opinion. You will disagree and when you do, you can’t just remain mum on an issue. Commit to your spouse and if you can’t commit, seek help. If that doesn’t work, leave. Don’t put your spouse through misery. When they split I learnt that if you truly love someone, the feeling won’t go. I also learnt to value family, and to forgive quickly, as hate will make you very bitter.
