Signs your broken relationship is still fixable
SOMETIMES it’s easy to recognise when things have gone kaput for good, and your broken relationship is best left in the rubbish heap. But at other times, even when things seem at their lowest, it’s possible to pick up the pieces.
How do you know that your relationship has not landed among those that are better left broken? Below, sex therapist Dr Sidney McGill shares indicators that your relationship may be viable enough for repair.
What you do or say (whether positive or negative) matters to your partner
Whenever you hear something about your partner, you’re immediately affected — if it’s good you’re happy and you want to celebrate with them, and if something negative happens you become concerned, and will even try to intervene to make things better for your ex. You still feel like you are a part of a team with the person and you lend support, even from a distance.
Memories of special moments you shared resurface time and time again
The good times certainly outweigh the bad, and your subconscious won’t allow you to forget that you may have been too hasty when you walked away.
When your partner is willing to forgive you for making their life miserable
Not only is life without your partner a nightmare because you would much rather be spending time with rather than without them, but they are also willing to forgive you for torturing them. They want to clean the slate and work on improving the relationship, even if all they have is hope that you won’t recreate another house of misery.
Your partner talks about your achievements and talents even when he/she is hurting from the break-up
They are still proud of you and they boast about you like nothing has changed, regardless of how chaotic their world has become in light of your break-up.
When he/she remembers your birthday or anniversary and calls you up at Christmas
Important dates and special occasions are still important to them. They still try to gift you and send you notes regarding the special date, sometimes even sharing snippets of your history as it suits the occasion. They also want to ensure that even if no one else remembers you on that special day, you can enjoy it because they made an effort.
When he/she has memorabilia of you, especially photos of happier times
They still keep photos of both of you in happier times; in fact, these memorabilia are among the few things that take them to their happy place. They are certainly not over you, and they wish that you weren’t over them, but as it is, all they have are pictures.
