Why she LEAVES when you least expect her to

WOMEN are strange beings, highly emotional and complex, or so most men think. Today a man thinks he has got it right because his woman responds positively to what he is doing, but by the following day, the response to the same thing might be very different.

One of the things that keeps puzzling men is why a woman leaves. The mistake that most men make is that they misread their women. Although men are not mind readers, if you take time to listen and know your woman, you will get it right.

Here are a few things a man needs to learn about why a woman leaves when you least expect her to.

Money isn’t everything

Yes, it’s true that women like to have financial security. A woman wants a man who can take care of her, but a rich woman doesn’t always mean a happy woman. There are many materially comfortable women out there, but if a woman doesn’t get affection and quality time with her man, she can get to a point where emotional needs supersede material comfort. A woman who has money and no love is vulnerable.

Sometimes love just isn’t enough

On the flip side of having everything for her material comfort and not having affection, is the woman who loves a man who cannot afford to give her the things she needs. Note I said ‘needs’, not ‘wants’. As much as we want to think that love conquers all, it does not. Regardless of how much love a man shows a woman, if he cannot do some basic things for her when she’s in need, she will eventually become disgruntled. A disgruntled woman is vulnerable, and even if she loves her man, she may be tempted to cheat out of a desire to satisfy a need her man cannot provide.

Cheating

The time will come when she’s had enough. A cheating man can erode a woman’s self-esteem. Even if a man is a good father to his children and a provider in the home, once he is a serial cheater, one day he may come home to an empty house. That’s because a woman who is repeatedly cheated on not only begins to question her worth, but she begins to plan her escape, sometimes long before she actually leaves. She might sit there for years and endure the hurt, but over the course of those years she is building a lot of resentment towards him. A woman who has had to deal with a cheating man can make love to her man Friday night and put on her best performance. Then Saturday evening he returns home and she’s gone. This is because her actions are not the result of what he may have done that week or the week before, rather it is sometimes years or months of a carefully thought out plan finally being put into action.

Children grow up

Some men who know their women are not happy with them take comfort in the fact that there are children involved, thus their partners will not leave. Not true. One day those children will grow up, and more women are thinking along the lines of cutting loose once the children are past that vulnerable stage. The days when women were concerned about being able to move on with someone else because they had children have also passed. Despite popular belief, a woman who really wants out of a relationship that includes children will eventually leave when it’s convenient for her to do so. There are also men who do not have any children and are happy to play daddy to the children of the women they love. A man who isn’t doing right by his woman should therefore not be fooled into thinking she is stuck with him because of the children.

Religious beliefs

Although the Bible clearly states that a married woman’s first concern is with pleasing her husband, there are women who are so religious that they lose themselves in church activities and destroy their marriages. More time is spent at church than with their husbands. Many marriages suffer when women are unbalanced in their dedication to their functions in the church versus their responsibilities as wives. Sometimes these women become so misinformed about their responsibilities as Christian wives that they end up misinterpreting the Bible and failing to be good wives to their husbands. This is why some Christian women fail to be good wives and sometimes abandon their marriages.

Marie ‘The PR Girl’ Berbick is a motivational speaker and founder of the women’s ministry Sisters United for Prayer, Healing, Empowerment & Restoration (SUPHER). Keep up with her on marieberbick.blogspot.com, on Twitter @thePR Girl, or e-mail marieberbick@gmail.com.