Things I’m surprised I let my ex get away with
SOMETIMES in relationships, we make so many compromises that we often lose the very essence of the people we are or who we vowed to be, putting up with a number of things we sometimes swore we wouldn’t. It’s all part of the love game, and then when the love ends, we’re often amazed at the things we’d put ourselves through just to please our partners.
This week,
All Woman
asked readers to go down memory lane and share some of the things they let their exes get away with in 2016, that they’re surprised they did.
MD:
She was always texting someone else in my presence. Sometimes when I was really near her she would hide the phone.
Shakira:
I let him get away with cheating.
Daina:
He hit me and I turned a blind eye because he was drunk at the time.
DJ:
She lost her job, so naturally I helped her out financially. I sympathised with her and helped her look for jobs. Turns out her position was actually made redundant and she got a good amount of cash, and she wasn’t sending out job applications. I didn’t even tell her that I found out.
KL:
I’m not a woman beater but my ex girlfriend would try everything to rile me up — even hitting me. She would hit me in the face over and over, trying to get me to hit her back, because she said I was too soft. I never retaliated, even though she eventually left me because she said she needed someone with more backbone.
Danielle:
I spoiled him a lot, but I really loved him so that didn’t matter to me.
Sash:
I called him to come get me from work. His lame excuse was that his car was full so he couldn’t carry me home, where we both lived.
Kelly:
He admitted that he still had feelings for his high school girlfriend and I was OK with it.
Kevin:
She had an opportunity to get tertiary education and I didn’t. She would always talk about it and talk down to me, and I let it slide.
Alecia:
He would constantly body-shame me, and I would just ignore him. I dived into serious depression and lost too much weight. It was my friend (now current boyfriend) who helped me get back on track.
Nick:
My ex would always curse me and start unnecessary arguments. I think she wanted to push me over the edge so that I would harm her and get in trouble. For my son’s sake I just ignored her and held back my fist.
LJ:
I had an ex who was super protective. If he couldn’t go somewhere with me he’d be in a bad mood or start an argument. Yet he went out a lot. Our relationship was great, so long as I didn’t go anywhere. Looking back, I realise that a lot of times I didn’t make plans because I couldn’t bother with the arguing. I wonder now how I put up with that.
