Things you should never post about your relationship on
ONE in five relationships start online, according to a recent study commissioned by Match.com
In fact, no longer do you have to call up a friend or dig hard to know who’s dating who, shacking up, having relationship problems or getting married — it’s usually all on social media.
But according to relationship expert Wayne Powell, while showcasing your spouse may be good, there are some things best kept offline and between you and your significant other.
Below he shares with All Woman five things about your relationship that no one, especially social media, needs to know. These include:
1. Details of your intimate moments
Powell said these include videos, pictures and written details of what goes on in the dark. He said such matters are private and not for public consumption. Additionally, Powell said it is important to know that these things don’t go away, and while a change of status from being in a relationship to being single can be survived, the exposure of intimate details will eventually haunt you. “Who knows? Maybe someone with malicious intentions screenshot what you posted and kept it, then decided to show it to your boss when you’re up for a promotion, or to your husband when you’ve put away childish things and moved on with your life,” he said.
2. Disagreements
“When you and your partner have a verbal or physical fight, making this for public viewing could work against you in the long run. In the world of memes and trolling, you may become victim to that. What’s worse is if you break up, when you’re ready to move on, decent suitors who knew of the melee may be turned off,” he warned.
3. Sexual inadequacies
The relationship counsellor said bad-mouthing and embarrassing your ex on his inability to deliver the “goods” is never a wise thing. “You could never tell, he might be back in your life and the joke will be on you,” he explained. It also shows that you are childish, petty, and don’t respect an individual’s privacy or care about their emotional well-being.
4. Unconfirmed proposals
Powell said when you blast information about engagement and marriage when no firm decisions were made, you will be left embarrassed for a long time if he never proposes and you never walk down the aisle. “Don’t be too sure until the deed is done. Even then, keep the information minimal. The fewer spies, talkers, hypocrites and haters — the better for you,” he said.
5. Launching an attack on your boyfriend’s ex
Powell said life is such that he may leave you and return to her, leaving you with egg on your face. “They say hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. You don’t want to be the scorned woman. You are left vulnerable, and in this state you may do irrational things. Also emotionally, it is not easy to recover when you think all is well, and your partner walks out of your life without warning. Your partner’s ex has done nothing to you, so stay out of her life.”
