Unusual relationship deal-breakers

SOME of the factors that make us choose one partner over another can seem insignificant, but whether small or large, there are a few relationship deal-breakers that some women would never compromise on. Known deal-breakers include controlling behaviour, selfishness and abusive behaviour; however, there are other quirks that crop up which will immediately have some women calling it quits.

Olive, nurse:

Earlier this year I met a guy. A month afterwards he told me that he wanted to get married in four months. I asked, “To whom?”, because it could never be me since we had just met. He then started to pester me about moving in with him. I don’t believe in pushing my morals aside to please anybody. Moving in after a month was too soon for me. In addition, he came on too strong and only cared about what he wanted.

Alicia, student:

While I was talking to this man, I noticed that he was always looking in the mirror. It was really bad — he even walked with a mirror in his pocket. Every time we were together he would take it out and check out himself. The frequency and how he did it was too weird for me. He was nice otherwise, but I ended things.

Lisa, secretary:

For a short while I dated someone who I am convinced was a psycho. Whenever we hung out he would stare at other women, but there was a diabolic look in his eyes when he did it that freaked me out.

Natasha, bank clerk:

Whenever we got intimate he would cover his privates with his hands and would never let me see it. He would even sleep with his hands covering himself. Then he would immediately run to the bathroom after our sessions, as if he wanted to wash away everything. And then he did these weird thrusting moves — a cross between someone getting the fits and someone dancing the rumba. It was just too crazy, so I ended it.

Tasha, chef:

After about six months, his freaky side started to surface. I don’t mind trying new things, but when he told me we should do role playing where he would be the rapist and I the victim, I literally ran out of the room. You read about this kind of thing in books and you watch it on TV, but when you’re in the situation it’s a different feeling. There is no way I want to be with someone who wants to pretend to rape me. That’s crazy.

Jelissa, student:

He was too emotional, and would cry at everything — if someone shouted at him, if there was a sad movie, if I ate the last of his cereal, he would break down crying. And I don’t mean just tears, he would sob as if someone had died — heaving, anguished sobs. I think there were some serious emotional problems there.

Elizabeth, entrepreneur:

One day my ex asked me if I would do a swing party with three other couples. I asked him what he was smoking, because he was crazy to think that I would be willing to take part in an orgy.