Moving on when things end
Ladies, how do you cope after a break-up? Do you cry all day and night? Do you run into the arms of another man to heal? Gentlemen, do you escape in parties and drinking? Do you immediately find a woman to seek release? Do you find that none of these things actually work?
We’re here to help. Below are three great concepts proven to make the transition easier.
STAGE 1:
Look within yourself. Relationships come into our lives as a blessing or a lesson. If it ended, it means it was a lesson and for you to learn that lesson or lessons, you have to spend time meditating on the relationship. Look within yourself and see where you went wrong. No one is perfect so at some point you would have contributed to the demise of the relationship and as a means to prevent a cycle of failed relationships, I suggest you stop and spend time alone where you can evaluate yourself objectively. When you do this, you will vividly see the errors. Also, you must spend time alone. Don’t think that to heal from a relationship, a new one will do. What will eventually happen is this – you will find yourself making comparisons whether it be openly or within your own mind and that will open a can of worms. You cannot bandage a wound until it is treated and so it is with relationships. For you to move on, you must take the time to heal which means being alone and spending time via meditation to really give yourself closure.
STAGE 2:
Strengthen your relationship with God. Things always happen for a reason and for you to seek the reason, you must spend time with God. Some people only know God when their hearts are broken and this is not a good foundation to have with God. You must have a solid foundation through thick and thin. Don’t seek Him because Jim Brown walked out on you and left you high and dry. God is filled with grace and compassion and He wants you to seek Him at all times, so keep that in mind.
STAGE 3:
Learn your lesson. This means you accept what is. You may not understand what happened because as far as you know, you had been a good and faithful partner. But people walk away because they are not joined to you and you have to accept this. At any given moment, someone can decide that they desire someone new and they up and leave someone who has loved them more than air itself. But treat breakups like eating sugar cane (my pastor uses this analogy all the time) by simply sucking out the juice and spitting out the trash. Someone may have walked out on you and it hurts but within all the emotional pain, learn what you need to. It is important that you learn because it is within the lesson that your strength and ultimately your breakthrough lies.
