5 signs your relationship is unlikely to last
WHEN problems arise in a relationship, the first instinct is to try to fix things. But if these problems flare up repeatedly and you are the only one trying to patch things up, beware!
If you’re caught in a cycle where your partner shows no inclination to compromise, or if none of the attempts to fix things have worked, this is a sign that your relationship is unlikely to last. Oddly enough, some people are oblivious to these signs and are shocked when the relationship finally comes to an end.
Sex therapist Dr Sidney McGill shares some signs indicating that you may be at the point of no return.
1. You or your partner are always defensive, angry, scared and jealous. None of these traits are conducive to a healthy relationship, and if these emotions are features of your union, then things will just continue to head downhill.
2. Communication between you and your partner is reduced to “I want” and “You are not good enough”. This can be paraphrased in various ways or can be obvious from your respective attitudes. Constant selfish behaviour will guarantee a break-up.
3. Your partner is never there when you really need him/her. If your partner disappears during an illness, the birth of a child, or other important events in your life, that behaviour indicates total disregard of your feelings. If they are not there for the important stuff, then what particular purpose do they serve?
4. Communication in the relationship is reduced to only factual information such as the weather or one-word responses. This is one of the surest indications that there is no interest by either party. If the partners treat each other like mere strangers sharing space, then the relationship is doomed.
5. He/she doesn’t care about the things that interest you, and you both have nothing in common. Compatibility is one of the most important facets of a good relationship, so if your tastes are completely at odds, then the relationship is going nowhere.
If you notice these things in your relationship, Dr. McGill recommends that you find a neutral person to discuss your concerns with your partner. Involve your partner in a series of counselling sessions that are not judgemental in order to bring greater insight into the obstacles that prevent growth in the relationship.
