Married but still wanting to turn heads
AYESHA Curry, celebrity chef and wife of NBA superstar Steph Curry, has been heavily criticised on social media for comments made on a recent episode of Red Table Talk , Jada Pinkett-Smith’s web television talk show.
During the episode, while explaining that her husband gets plenty of attention from women, who throw themselves at him, Ayesha said she sometimes feels insecure because she doesn’t get any attention from men.
“Something that really bothers me, and honestly has given me a sense of a little bit of an insecurity, is the fact that there are all these women, like, throwing themselves [at Steph], but me, the past 10 years, I don’t have any of that,” Ayesha admitted.
She followed this statement with: “I have zero — this sounds weird — but like, male attention and so then I begin to internalise it, and I’m like, ‘Is something wrong with me?’” Ayesha, who was on the show with other members of the Curry family, including Steph’s mom Sonya, shared.
An unabashed Ayesha said that she hoped that her honesty would inspire more women to share their truth. To test if it did, All Woman asked some female readers who are in committed relationships if they also crave male attention as validation that they still turn heads. Below, we share their responses:
Liz, 33, district constable
Once I’m getting love and affection from my partner, I care zero who won’t see me. If I’m not getting it, then I would definitely enjoy the feeling of that attention coming from outside the relationship, because that would make me feel good knowing that nothing is wrong with me.
Oniqueka, 27, fast-food restaurant manager
If I don’t get attention from men outside of my relationship, especially since I used to, then of course I would feel some type of way. I would also begin to wonder if my partner’s interest is somewhere else as well.
Krissy, 24, university student
Honestly, for me, it’s not that I want to be involved with other people outside of my relationship, but it’s good to know sometimes that other people still recognise you. It is good to know you are not just a snack in the eyes of your man but that you still got it.
Nordia, 29, teacher
No, I do not need the attention of men outside of my relationship to feel secure in my relationship or to feel good about what I offer physically. It really doesn’t matter. Attention from men, or none at all, doesn’t matter once my partner makes me feel appreciated and he shows he cares.
Ashieka, 27, communication specialist
For me, male attention outside of my marriage is a non-issue. If I don’t get it, it doesn’t bother me at all, because I don’t think I need compliments from other men to feel confident about myself. Once I get all the attention I need from my spouse I should be fine.
Sharry, 34, accountant
I will say that I am very happy in my relationship. my partner treats me well, and compliments me on the way I look, regularly. However, I do like when other men also notice that I take care of myself and comment on it. It is a confidence booster. I don’t need it, but it is welcomed and I don’t think there is anything wrong with desiring that.
