‘Nuh give weh real fi fantasy’
WHETHER you are in a long-term relationship or are married, your use or overuse of social media platforms has the potential to cause conflict with your partner.
The evolution of life in the digital world has brought with it increased relationship drama, which ranges from jealousy and insecurity to emotional cheating. This has resulted in social media taking a place among the most common reasons relationships end up on rocky shores or crashing altogether.
All Woman asked people whether or not they were willing to delete their social media accounts if it meant that they would have less conflict and a healthy relationship. Check out what some of them said:
Quincy, 30, operational specialist:
I would deactivate it. Why? Because there is a chance that the relationship won’t last. However, as long as we are in a relationship, the social media page would remain deactivated.
Kerry, 31, writer:
I would never delete my social media pages for a relationship. It’s like deleting myself from the outside world. Any man who has a problem with me being on social media is clearly trying to isolate me from everyone else. Of course, I would never post anything to make my man look bad, or entertain certain conversations on social media, but my face is too pretty to lock up in the house.
Kay, 23, network marketer:
No. He can slide out of my life. The fact is that my social media makes me money. What is important for me is securing the bag, paying my student loan and for my mother’s health care. These can’t take care of themselves. So, money is just as important as oxygen.
Kimberly Palmer, 23, assistant direct support manager:
I wouldn’t delete it, but I would limit my use just because many people are so consumed with social media that they miss out on truly getting to know their partner, especially in this generation.
Roderick, 22, YouTuber:
Social media is a part of my life based on my career aspirations. If my partner is not understanding enough to take that into consideration, then she can just go.
Kristen, 24, client executive:
I would do anything for my relationship. So yes, once I understand how it makes the other person uncomfortable, I would definitely delete my social media accounts. I like to give the treatment I expect from others, so if something I do makes the person I love feel some type of way, I’m going to try to accommodate them. However, if it turns out they are not accommodating me for anything, then I would not go above and beyond anymore.
Racen, 23, law clerk:
No. I have been in this situation where my girl got vexed over nonsense. All that was happening was that some girls were liking and commenting on my picture. If I’m doing shady things then I understand, but if it’s just a crazy girl who is insecure and gets upset for just about everything [then no].
Orlando, 29, help desk technician:
Yes, once the relationship remains one worth fighting for then I would. I would choose my relationship above some personal leisure… any day. Actually, this could result in individual as well as collective growth, because no doubt it would mean spending more time when face-to-face together.
Olivia, 24:
Yes. Social media is impersonal, unreal and highly stressful. A healthy relationship is real, comforting and valuable. I would never let anything intangible stand in the way of my true happiness. Think about if you asked this question when MySpace was still a thing, and people said, ‘No way’? Then it gets shut down and all the good partners they shut down are happily married with kids and a house! Nuh give weh real fi fantasy.
