3 great reasons to stop playing the blame game
So whose fault is it? Surely it must be his because it cannot be mine! This is just one of the comments which are often hurled in an argument between a couple.
Below, romance author Richie Drenz shares three reasons why you and your partner should stop playing the blame game.
1. It gets you nowhere fast
The blame game can turn into a vicious cycle pretty fast and so it is up to you to know when to come off the bandwagon. Always being the one to point the finger or to draw a line in the sand will only irritate your partner and push them closer and closer to the edge. Also, what you do in one relationship is most likely what you will do in future relationships. And so without a doubt this will make it hard for you to find a future partner as the same problems will always be surfacing.
2. Nobody wins
While you may be busy keeping score, the truth is that nobody wins. If you do end up winning an argument and your partner is so upset that they decide to leave, then your victory is worth nothing. You have to know when to cut your losses and move on. Be willing to compromise. Playing the blame game is childish, as there are always two sides to a story.
3. Playing the blame game distracts you from solving the real problem
While you or your partner are busy pointing fingers, the source of the conflict is not being identified or solved. It is important for both of you not to get distracted by all the noise of who is wrong versus who is right. Even if there is someone to blame, what does that solve? The problem still exists. You both need to quiet yourselves and have a heart-to-heart conversation about what it is that you are feeling. It is only from there that you will be able to move the relationship forward in a positive direction.
