10 signs you’re over your ex
GETTING over your ex can be very liberating in many ways. Knowing when you’re over someone, that special moment you realise that they no longer hold the key to your heart, is a major milestone. Not only does it mean your emotional baggage just became lighter, but it also means you are ready to move on with your life.
For some people, it takes years, and for some it takes months, but there is no special timeframe to get over someone. Some people allow time to take care of the wounds, while others actively implement other strategies.
These may include becoming involved with someone else right away, a strategy that relationship experts advise against because of the rebound effect which acts like a band-aid over an open sore. However, there are people who will tell you that dating right away worked for them and provide evidence of a happy relationship with the person they became involved with.
Personality has a lot to do with the success of your ‘getting over him/her’ strategy, so what worked for someone else might not necessarily work for you. However, the sweetest moment comes when you realise that you’re really over the ex.
Here are 10 things that can help you recognise this milestone.
1. You can look at a photo of your ex without your heart racing like a runaway train.
2. Someone who wasn’t aware the relationship had ended asks you for your ex and you are able to respond without sarcasm or feeling upset.
3. You wake up one day and suddenly realise you forgot to do that ritualistic scan of his Facebook page the previous day. Instead of beating yourself up for forgetting to stalk his FB page, you punch the air with joy!
4. You are able to look at his Facebook page without being tempted to post something negative to embarrass him.
5. You are out alone and come face to face with him and his new lady, and instead of feeling jealous and wanting to run and hide, you find yourself saying hello without any hard feelings.
6. You are able to listen to the song that was so special to you both without shedding a tear.
7. You can go through the day without mentioning his name and you no longer spend all your alone time thinking about him.
8. You no longer call his number and remain quiet when he answers the phone.
9. You no longer stalk his new girlfriend’s Facebook page to see what she’s wearing or what she’s saying about their relationship.
10. If he was a womaniser, you actually feel sorry for his new lady, instead of angry your relationship ended.
Regardless of which of these signs apply to you, the most important thing is that you are now free to welcome someone else into your life without them having to compete with your ex for your heart.
Marie Berbick aka ‘The PR Girl’, is a communications specialist, motivational speaker and founder of the women’s ministry Sisters United for Prayer, Healing, Empowerment & Restoration (SUPHER). Follow her on Twitter @thePRGirl or e-mail marieberbick@gmail.com.
