She’s leaving me… for an ugly guy

THE idea of the woman he once loved or is still deeply in love with being with someone else is enough to cause a man’s heart to break over and over again. And no doubt, as much as men hate to admit it, like women who have trod the road of a similar kind of betrayal, they find themselves measuring themselves against the person playing the leading role in their exes’ lives. Does the new man’s physical features count when making these comparisons? All Woman asked male readers how they felt about their partners leaving them for less attractive men, and whether they thought this move was a downgrade.

Devar, 30, IT technician:

It didn’t bother me — it was actually funny to me because that was one sign that it was a rebound relationship. Her epistles about him having a better personality, and that he was a better person than me, didn’t strike a nerve. It would have bothered me if what she said came from a place of love for the guy, but she was just trying to make me jealous. We will see how that match-up fares — mama is holding on strong still.

Lennox, 27, sales rep:

It hurt like hell, to be honest. This is a girl who throughout our two-year relationship we spent a lot of time going to spas together and keeping our general appearance up, and when she left, she soon after got involved with a man who uses his hands to work outside. I saw it as an insult at first, then I started to wonder what he had that I didn’t, and it really tore me up when I confronted her and she told me that not only did he have a good personality, he was a way better and more compassionate lover than I was.

Jacob, 34, business owner:

It is kind of funny, but even if he wasn’t uglier I know the relationship and I were her loss. I am the best that she will ever have and it’s not about any bragging and boasting.

Taylor, 25, student:

It doesn’t really matter to me that the guy is ugly. I just hope that he loves her and treats her well. She and I both know that only money could get her to talk to an ugly man and that she is all about looks, so we will see how long whatever dolly house that she has going on will last. Good luck to them.

Mark, 42, field officer:

He wasn’t just a step down in the face department, but I later learned that he was less than blessed in the department that matters most. Her friend even told me that she said I am the best that she ever had and how she can’t stop talking about the loving that I gave to her. So it really doesn’t matter to me whom a woman picks up after we are no longer together. If it’s an ugly man, that is even better for me because I am better looking than her man. Who doesn’t want that?

Phillip, 30, security guard:

Honest to God, a man’s face doesn’t have a thing to do with me. The man could look like Idris Elba and it wouldn’t bother me. What would bother me, honestly, is if a woman told me that the man that she is along with makes her scream louder than I did.

Ethan, 38, production manager:

I wasn’t there for my girlfriend as much as she needed me to be and she decided to leave me. The guy was a four (and this is me being very generous). I don’t know if she was trying to spite me, but if you are going to do that, pick someone who is at least an eight. I regret what I put her through, I am deeply sorry, and I think the only thing that bothered me is how soon she left, like she was texting and talking to him all along. I’m even wondering if I was the only one cheating.