Hmm, hmm, why so clingy?
IT’S nice to feel loved and appreciated, after all, who doesn’t want hand-held walks on the beach, calls to check on how your day is going, and flowers and candy, just because. But there’s affection and then there’s being clingy — and as author Angelica Tapas said, if in every move that you do, he/she is always there, or demands all your undivided attention, the relationship may have issues with clinginess.
What has been your experience with a clingy partner that freaked you out?
Dhave, 43:
This was a few years back when I used to invite a friend of mine to church. It was just platonic for me, as added to everything else, she was not a Christian and was much younger. Anyway, I would pick her up, take her to church and back home, and I guess some people would view it as a relationship, but it was the farthest thing from my mind. When they announced my engagement in church she went ballistic — she stormed out and started wailing in the church yard. It was embarrassing. And later that evening she confessed her love, and said she couldn’t live without me. I had to stop inviting her to church because she just got worse, as in her head we were together, and she vowed to make my fiancée and church elders think so too. I cut her off and she moved away, but not before telling me that I was the worst kind of guy.
Serena, 40:
Imagine being with someone clingy, who’s also your babyfather, and having to deal with it everyday. We dated for probably two years and at first it was cute, the way he loved me with all his heart and soul, then it was just weird. We split soon after I had our daughter, and that was 17 years ago. Would you believe that to this day this man still sends me messages and e-mails as if we were still together, and tries to run my life even though he lives in America, and even though I’m married. By the way, he insists that my marriage is fake and that I’m just pretending to have a husband. It’s creepy and weird that he still hasn’t been able to move on after all these years.
Roxanne, 38:
This guy is a soldier and we all know how they get. It’s like because they’re away for so long they get insecure, even though they’re also the worst players.
Well, he will call and text right through the day, and if I ever once don’t pick up, or I am not available, trust that one of his cop friends will appear at my yard to check on me. It’s like living under watch by the CIA. I love him and all, but this behaviour is sinister.
Keith, 35:
Every time I tried to break up with her she would burst in tears and beg me to stay with her and I would feel so guilty that there were many break-ups that I put off. But it made me lose so much respect for her, because it was so obvious that we were a bad match. Her crying made me feel bad, so I kept putting it off. After some time I finally managed to break up with her, but it didn’t stop there. The first date I went on after the break-up, I don’t know how she found out, but she showed up at the restaurant and caused a scene, telling my date that she was pregnant. I still cringe just thinking about it. She moved on and is happy with another guy now, but I still think about it sometimes and feel embarrassed all over again.
