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The ex files
All Woman, Relationships
 on May 22, 2023

The ex files

ALAISHA THOMAS 

SOME of us are mature enough to maintain a healthy relationship with our exes — like we were friends all along, and that hiccup in the road that was the relationship was just a small bump, and we can move on. Others see our exes as belonging in the ‘worst mistake of my life’ category, to be forgotten, loathed, and willed into obliteration.

What category do you fall into? Imagine this scenario, if your ex were to contact you and say they were in a difficult place, and needed your help, what would you do?

Tiffany, 40:

Considering that he slept with my best friend and had a baby with her, I’d probably call the police and report him for violating the restraining order I have against him.

Lori-Ann, 42:

I would realise that my astrologer got things wrong, and that I needed a stronger dose of guzzu to ensure that he stayed far away because I don’t know what force could have led that liar and cheater back to my space.

Shanice, 28:

I would probably help him, because all have sinned, and there’s no point in me holding his mistakes against him. I’m sure he has matured in the time we have been apart, and since I no longer have feelings for him, he would be treated as any other person who needs my help.

Yvonne, 52:

I would say yes, and let him come over so we could talk about his problem. And then when he came to the gate, I would tell my pitbull to sic him. That man knows better than to ever come back to this community.

Tamoya, 30:

My ex and I are still friends, so I would help him, as long as the help didn’t include money or anything I had to spend on, because he’s a scammer and can’t trick me twice. But if he needed advice or a shoulder to cry on or anything like that, I’d be open to listening.

Chelle, 25:

Exes are in the past for a reason. If that old scumbag needed help from me of all people, after the stuff he put me through, I would realise how desperate he is. And I would call him over, and spit in his face.

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